Life after baby can be hard on a marriage. Your world has turned upside down- in the most beautiful and wonderful way. But there is certainly less time and energy for your relationship with your significant other.
So when you feel ready, a couples trip is a fantastic way to reconnect and refresh together. A full nights sleep never hurt either. =)
So first things first, you have to decide when it is the right time. Leaving baby for the first time will always be hard, but there is a sweet spot where the benefits outweigh the sadness.
Many experts recommend leaving baby overnight for the first time no earlier than 3-4 months. But of course, this decision is totally up to you. It will be so different for everyone. As far as baby, separation anxiety will begin around 9 months, so if possible getting away before then might be a great idea. A few questions to ask: Who will watch baby, and am I totally comfortable with their ability? Are you breastfeeding- how will you manage with pumping and supply? How far away will we travel?
Once youâ€™ve decided youâ€™re ready to get away together, the next decision is is where to? Depending on your comfort level, you can choose a fabulous exotic destination, or simply spend your first few nights away in your own city. If this is your first baby and you already know its going to be hard, a staycation couples trip may be the best idea. Itâ€™s a great chance to explore your city, or someplace within a few hours drive. Find a fabulous hotel you love or one youâ€™ve always been wanting to try, make some dinner reservations, and plan a fun touristy activity! You can make one night work if youâ€™re nervous about leaving baby, but 2+ nights really makes it feel more like a true vacation.
If you think youâ€™ll be totally fine on a couples trip for a few nights away from baby, by all means- pick a beach or a mountain and get you and your honey there! (PS- This does NOT make you a bad mom! Getting a break is ESSENTIAL and those who have a bit of an easier time with it are actually at an advantage! Youâ€™ll return home refreshed and better able to parent.) Like I suggested for a girls trip, one great idea for a little one who still isnâ€™t sleeping through the night is to hire a night nanny to help out grandparents, or even another nanny who will be taking care of the kiddos. While youâ€™re away, allowing the main caretaker to get a good nights rest will be so helpful!
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